if only...

if only he was this...if only he was that...if only he hadn't done this...if only he hadn't done that...

it's too easy to see all the "if only's" and "what ifs." but if we're constantly pondering alternate realities via "if onlys" and "what ifs," we're missing the point of today. granted, the past is important...but the past is the past. our desire to fondle the endless possibilities and opportunities that our 20/20 hindsight provides leaves our present aldulterated and cheated.

love the past: log it, learn from it, and leave it.

we all have a past. don't be harsh on yourself or anyone else...life is too short to always be looking over our shoulder -- missing out on today's opportunities and providing the "if onlys" and "what ifs" of tomorrow.